Beyond the Couple Form: intimacy, interdependence, & ethical non-monogamy

Wednesday, February 13, 7:30-9:30pm
Hosted by NK
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“This channeling and organization of sex and amorous relations I will refer to as the logic of the couple — that which funnels, simplifies, and reduces amorous desire to the needs of patriarchy within the capitalist mode of production.”
— Clemence X. Clementine, “Against the Couple Form”

“Most people have few solid, dependable relationships in their lives. Much of this is from the breaking of relationships, isolation, fear and criminalization that capitalism requires…We reassure people this is not a popularity contest, but rather a chance to reflect on why we have so few relationships with the kind of deep trust, reliability and groundedness we need to be able to respond well to violence.”
— Mia Mingus, Pods & Pod Mapping Worksheet for Bay Area Transformative Justice Collective


In this round table on relationship models, we’ll discuss what ethical non-monogamy can teach us about interdependence, intimacy, commitment, and care. Some questions for ourselves & for the audience:

What are the origins and effects of monogamy? How many different ways can we define & experience intimacy? How can we cultivate more intimate relationships? What does it mean to de-romanticize commitment? And how can we cultivate more intimate, more accountable, and more interdependent relationships — beyond the couple form?

Meenadchi is a human being, a human bean, a human been. Most interested in the intersections of relationship building, accountable transformation, and increasing interdependency. Work histories in theater, suicide prevention, crisis stabilization and decolonized non-violent communication. @whostoleserendib

NK is a writer, performer, and programmer working for a more liberated future. Her fiction has appeared in ZYZZYVA, Fiction Southeast, and Best Small Fictions 2016, and her audio work has been featured on The Heart, Afropunk’s Solutions Sessions, and the CBC’s Podcast Playlist. She is a co-producer of bitchface, an experimental audio project about art, gender, and power. @_stillbornworld

Phoenix Mandel (they/them pronouns) has been a sexuality educator and consultant since 2006, lecturing and workshopping on sex positivity, kink, ethical nonmonogamy, LGBTQIA+, sexual health, and related topics. Phoenix is based in Los Angeles, but has taught classes in a variety of settings in North and South America, Africa, and Europe. They bring an intersectional approach to their work, being actively engaged with many of these communities (Phoenix is queer, genderqueer, polyamorous, and kinky). Phoenix organizes and hosts many events, including (but not limited to) co-facilitating a monthly support and discussion group for nonbinary and nonmonogamous individuals, being a host for Queer Enough Los Angeles events, managing a monthly queer/poly/kink-friendly clothing swap and crafting event, and assisting with recurring alternative community-focused karaoke nights. To contact Phoenix for a lecture, workshop, educational consulting, or event coordination, email them at [email protected].

Accessibility information for this event: WCCW has a 36” wide ramp at our front entrance and a stairway with 8 steps and a rail. There are 2 gender neutral restrooms. One restroom is wheelchair accessible, with a handrail. We provide scent free soaps and encourage guests to attend our events scent free. If you require ASL interpretation, CART, interpretation for a language other than English, supervised childcare, or have any other access needs or questions, please contact [email protected] at least two weeks in advance. It is our practice to do everything we can to create a safe and accessible space.

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